Should I write? 

Writing for a purpose (e.g., grant, competition, etc.) is different from writing for a leisure (e.g., diary/daily journal). The first one carries a responsibility, while the latter has less burden. However, this should not make you stop writing because your written products whether it is for a purpose or a leisure, could save one’s life or perhaps have a positive impact on the readers. Thus, please keep writing and polishing your writing skills because great thing could happen when people read your letters, reports, or stories. 

Happy writing peeps!


Have you ever… 

Have you ever experienced the time when you had to make a very good decision in a short amount of time with limited resources? For example, the person or company you have been waiting is not yet responding to your requests. Or, you wait for additional documents that are not yet delivered to your mailbox.

Have you ever felt that the decision that you made earlier was (perhaps) wrong or not effective? If yes, how did you amend this situation? 
I did made several important decisions in my life, and I had a mixed feeling post my decisions. Ideally and as some people said, we should not feel sorry or regret or whatsoever once we make a decision. Well, I found this was quite hard. What I meant with mixed feeling was that I was happy I did it, but then I regretted from making that decision. It was a plus and minus in every important decision that I made.
I learned along the way that I could not get all the plus. There has to be some minus. I do wonder if this is the “common rule” in life.
I will say the “troubleshooting” moment is the hardest one because you have to make sure that you will not repeat the same mistake.
So, the best reasonable advice I could give to you is to do what you need to do, and just remember that your final decision should not and will not against the law. 

It’s OK to be different 

I live in the culture that still expects a woman to marry a guy at a certain age. Most of the women in my age, in this particular area, are either married with kids or are getting married soon. I am, on the other hand, is none of the above. 

I have been spending my life post high school on education and building my  career. Lately, I have been searching for a training facility that will provide me with high level of specific skills. My field requires me to keep studying and updating my knowledge. School is not ended after I obtained my diploma. 

Over the years, I learned to not feel bothered seeing my friends’ wedding pictures or hearing that someone whom I know is getting married. I learned to anticipate relatives’ questions when they asked why I did not bring a boyfriend home. I figured it is more important building a legacy in the place where I live than finding a husband. I figured I will meet someone along the way, I just don’t know when and where.   

I conclude that this is the dynamic of life. We see joyful to tearful moment, easy to difficult, all are blended together. Take it as it is, digest as best as you can, and come up with the better plans.


Money Saving Skills

How many of you are consistently  recording your daily expenses and then balancing the total expenses with the income at the end of the month? Do you know how important it is to keep track and manage our personal funds? There are multiple ways to keep track our expenses. Some people use a software, while others are doing it manually. Regardless, the purpose of this activity is to help us to control our budget and to ensure that we always have a surplus at the end of the month. 

I had a conversation with a lady who got married last year. I saw her pulling out papers and stack of receipts from her purse. She had a calculator next to her. I asked her what she was doing, and she told me she was calculating her monthly expenses. I admired her detailed-oriented behaviors because she organized her accounting book very neat. I also realized at that moment that our focus and responsibility are changed once we enter a marriage life. Perhaps, we could immediately buy a new pair of shoes or a gadget when we were still single; now we have to think about the family. The cost of a pair of shoes or a new gadget could be used to pay the housing loans or childcare expenses. 
This immediate thought not only reminded me of my very first money saving experiences, but also made me wondering if parents and school nowadays are teaching this money saving skills to children. 

I was in the primary school when our parents opened a saving account for each one of us. They explained to us the reason behind it. They even told us when we could buy new toys or clothes including the reasons why we could not have certain items that we wished we could have it. Sure I was angry when I received no as an answer. I didn’t realize until I was older that my parents taught me to differentiate need from want. I wanted a new stuffed animal , but at that time I did not really need the stuffed animal. I had plenty of them in my room. 
I learned about debit, credit, surplus, and deficit in the high school accounting class. Although I did not end up in the accounting field, I implemented the skills when I started to live independently (e.g., in a college, graduated from college and had my first job, etc). I started to have my simple accounting book in which in each page, it has 4 columns (date, note, debit and credit). I admit my book is not as good as the lady’s accounting book. I know I should learn more from her because she is doing it very well. The skills that I received from my parents help me to sort which items I really need when I am out for shopping. 

In summary, we need to act wise when it comes to spending money while we continue to work on generating more income. We also need to prioritize our needs from our wants. It’s okay to teach our children or students on money saving skills. Sooner is better. 

Reflection: Like and Love

How long do you think you could like someone while the other person is not reciprocating your feeling? A month? A year? Is there an expiration date for this matter? 

How do you differentiate “like” from “love?” Ideally, you have to like that person first before you love that person. What if you can’t really tell whether you like or love this person? 
There’s a word of wisdom that states if you truly love someone, you are able to set that person free. Let’s say, you set this person free. Will you still feel a heartache every time you see that person hangs out with others while you can’t? The ideal answer is no, but what if yes? You could then ask about the “quantity” of the heartache. If you truly set this person free, your heartache should be decreased (e.g., from 100% heartache to 25% heartache and hopefully to 0% heartache). 

Another word of wisdom says that you can’t make another person fall in love with you. Yet, others say that love can’t develop instantly. It is built over time. Which word of wisdom are you going to choose? There’s no exact science rule for this. Use your best judgement, but do it with a big heart. 

So, going back to the first question. There is perhaps a possibility that you could still like that person even if this person doesn’t like you. Depending on your personal nature, there is a huge possibility that liking someone has no expiration date, and definitely there is NO expiration date in loving someone.