A Must-Have Attitude to Survive in The Dynamic Society

I believe in the idea that hard work and persistency are followed by desired outcome. However, I admit that the waiting time from the moment we start the work until we actually see the desired result is varied. It depends on the type of the work that we do. For example, it took a while for Steve Job to invent, design, and finally launch iPhone successfully and reap its rewards. On another note, the medical research to find cures for medical illness such as HIV is still ongoing, but many patients have received preventive care and treatments to lessen the pain.

Why being persistent and hard working are crucial traits in a job? Because it tells others and ourselves that we love our work. It also reflects on the product that we create or service that we deliver. Picture a smart doctor but this doctor is rude. Will you come back to see this doctor again? Probably no. You probably choose another doctor who is not as famous as that doctor, but this doctor listens to you, provides assistance that you need the most, and treats you as an equal person.

Now, at some point in our lives, we come across people who expect immediate results without examining the core area and (perhaps) fail to look back on how far the project/goal has been accomplished. This case usually happens to people whose loved ones are sick and/or suffering from mental health disorders. It could also happened to any companies that expect quick return of investment, as soon as the production is started. If any of you happen to experience this situation, I strongly advice you to think positive and look on the brighter side. You could weep for 5 minutes, and that’s it, no more weeping. Get up and go back to work. I personally think it’s a human nature to be slightly impatient and perhaps greedy, looking for more and better. Thus, any unpleasant comments or words coming out from clients should not make your heart small. Instead, use those words to motivate you to perform better. We should not worry about “what if so and so….” ,as long as we have been doing our work correctly and on the top of that, we show genuine effort to deliver the best performance to our customers.

I understand putting all of this into practice is not easy. It comes with practice and experience. It also comes with understanding that no one is perfect, but willingness to learn and move forward is a must-have attitude that we should have whether we are students, professionals, or simply an adult.

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When I am Old and Gray

When I’m old and gray,

… I will celebrate my journey of life.

… I will cherish my moment here and now.

… I will reminisce all of the hard work that I’ve done.

… I will share my life lessons to younger generation.

When I’m old and gray,

… I will enjoy the slow pace of my life.

… I will do one thing at a time.

… I will thank people who have been supported me all years long.

… I will give thanks to God who gives me strength and wisdom.

After 37 Years

May 3 marks my parents’ 37th wedding anniversary. 37 is a big number for them and for our entire family, because it takes so much love, pray, forgiveness and healthy mind to be able to lead a life as a husband and wife in today’s dynamic society.

I have learned from their marriage is that the continuity and strength of our family is built based on a teamwork between parents and children. This means that each of us has a responsibility to keep up with every tiny aspect in our family, whether it is a happy or sad moment and to try at our best to keep our family together.

I have also learned that the acts of verbally saying “I love you sweetheart” between married couple is not enough. They need to do more than that because the reality of marriage life involves acceptance, support, fidelity, forgiveness, finance, and the ability to move forward as a team of husband and wife. Putting this together, we could picture an image of husband and wife as ship’s captains with children as crews, together they sail and conquer the sea.

Now that 37 years have passed, my prayer to them and to our family is that we continue to support each other and lead a simple healthy life. I also pray that each of us continue to learn let go of grudges and forgive more and enjoy the moment.

The Hidden Benefit of Physical Exercises

I lately found a sense of comfort in watering plants. I don’t do it everyday, but whenever I have free slot I usually water the plants. The activity helps me to step outside the work and use the moment to brainstorm or relax. Work is quite tough and doing something that is not related to work is giving me a soothing feeling.

This similar experience happened to me in the past during my grad school. I was a first year graduate student at Pitt, and I chose a practicum site that was far from campus. I didn’t foresee that the site would be that far until I got there on the first day. I basically walked up and down the hill, 3 days a week for 4 months in winter time. The first time going up was hard. It took me about 35 minutes to go up, but it got easier after that. Even though the weather was cold and snowy, I found a sense of comfort as I walked up and down the hill. I saw another hill on the other side, played with the snow and leaves as I walked, and all of these surprisingly were entertaining. This exercise became my “therapy” at that moment because the practicum was hard. Funny, but it was true.

So, next time you feel tired or simply need some refreshing, please try to exercise. You could ride a bike, walk the dog, or any other activities you could think of. Who knows all the clouds in the head could disappear and new ideas could pop up.

p.s. picture source: personal property

Small Things Matter

There are times I feel tired and want to quit, but those tiny eyes that looked at me in awe, said something else. From the way they look at me, they want to say that I should not quit. Words may not come out from them, but eyes could talk.

I always believe that it is God’s grace that has made me doing things I have been doing all these years. I know it must be Him that brings me to this point. It is through the work that I do, that I learn to slow my pace and read the silent cue.

Thus, the moment I feel weak and tired, He constantly reminds me to keep moving forward. He does this through the children with whom I work. Small things matter. We celebrate small progress, because we hope to see more progress coming out from these children.

Be thankful for what you already have. Celebrate life because we do not know what is going to happen in the future. Appreciate those who have been with you through good and bad times. Pray hard whether you are happy or sad. Pray more when life storm hits you from all directions. Love your children regardless of their conditions. They know how you feel. They could feel whether you genuinely love them or not. Believe that nurture wins nature. If you have both, it’s good, but if nature isn’t that good, nurture them so that they could be useful when they are older.

Tips To Keep Your Wedding Vows Last Forever

The best moment in the wedding ceremony is during vow exchange. This, in my opinion, is the most serious moment in which two love birds verbally express their promises and cannot take the words back. I sincerely hope that whatever they say to each other is truth and last forever because there are couples who quick to say “I do,” but also quick to say “let’s get divorce.”

I learned through my experience working with multiple families that marriage vow could become fragile and sometimes was even forgotten when they were experiencing difficult times. The slippery moment usually happened after a major family event that happened to them, and this major family event could be in the form of illnesses, miscarriages, child disabilities, etc. The strongest couple is the one who could survive during the most challenging time, come out successfully, and still appreciate whatever God has given to them.

So, how to keep the marriage vow lasts then?

*Learning to love, forgive, and keep promises everyday.

*Praying together.

*Learning to not condemn to each other.

*Asking for help from professionals such as marriage therapists, religious leaders, or family counselors.

*Expressing apology

*Saying NO to drugs, gambling and infidelity. These three are poisons and could hurt your family members.

*Keeping your temper down.

Our world will be so much better and peaceful if each of us continuously learn to love each others. Keep spreading the love! and congratulations to those who are married today and/or getting married soon!

P.S. picture is from personal file.