I want my flowers
When I think about human’s ideal condition, I picture a human with healthy cognitive and mental functioning living in healthy and safe environment. This description reminds me of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs which consist of psychological needs, safety needs, love, self esteem, and self actualization. The hierarchy shows that human needs to have all of these to become a person with optimal performance. The psychological and safety needs, in my opinion, are the two most important needs that must be fulfilled and nurtured as early as possible and maintained in the long run. Productive and progressive community could be established when the people who live in it meet their basic needs and are nurtured.
However, we know that a truly perfect condition is rarely happened due to numerous reasons, and as a result, supportive elements are needed to create acceptable living condition that could foster the growth of healthy population. What I am going to discuss here is solely based on my opinion and experience working with families. Through this writing, I hope to share with you how parents and/or primary caregivers have important roles in shaping a person’s personalities and nurture his/her skills into a responsible adult. I also want to show how adults such as, teachers, doctors, and government play supportive roles in helping a person to reach his/her full capacity.
Ronald (imaginative name), is living with his parents and three other siblings in a rented house. Mother is a stay-at-home mother, while father works full-time as an office manager. A lot of crimes in their neighborhood, but the family can’t move because of their limited budgets. Family owns a car, and this car is used by the mother to transport children to school. Mother helps Ronald and his siblings with their school assignments. Mother is making sure that all children eat properly and have clean clothes. She rarely buys new clothes unless she has extra money left. She doesn’t feel shame, when a friend or a neighbor donates clothes and toys to her children. She and her husband want to ensure that Ronald and his siblings could get proper education and graduate from colleges. They believe that having a good education and degree could help their children to get a better job and thus earn more money.
Sandra (imaginative name) is the only child in her family. Her parents are both working in offices. Sandra lives in a nice house and safe neighborhood. Parents are way to busy that they do not spend time with Sandra. No one is supervising her school work and her social circles. Sandra’s friends manipulate her and encourage her to smoke and drink alcohols though she is still young. One day Sandra’s teacher caught her smoking weed and drinking beers at the school parking lot. Sandra is then placed on school detention and have to go through medical tests. Parents are blaming each other because of this. They feel shame because their daughter is taking drugs and is almost expelled by the school.
Rin (imaginative name), is an orphan child. Her parents were dead when they tried to escape from the war in their city. Rin was found by the Red Cross relief worker and has been stayed at the camp since then. Nurses and doctors took care of Rin because of her trauma and malnutrition. She attends school at the camp and soon will be moved to another city that is not affected by the war. Her social worker is searching for a foster family who could care for her wellbeing. Rin finally lives with her foster family, but she still feels scared of them. Her social worker convinces Rin that she will be all right and the worker will check on her on monthly basis. Her foster family is responsible for providing basic living needs such as food, clothing, safe house, education. Rin still needs to see a counselor to help her with her trauma.
Rocky (imaginative name) is a child with learning disabilities. Rocky’s parents hire a tutor to help him with academic work. Little did they know that this tutor often called Rocky name, like “stupid,” and often said”you never ever able to graduate.” Rocky has been begging to his parents to not bring the tutor home. His parents thought he was just lazy and did not investigate more. Years later, Rocky turns into a moody depressed young boy. He likes to hit anyone who doesn’t agree with him. When he beats another person, he says “stupid, stupid, stupid guy.” Rocky is taken to the police station due to his behaviors.
These 4 situations are just a glimpse of examples from countless possible situations that could happen to any human beings. The common theme from these 4 situations is that safe and healthy nurturing environments could lead to positive and better outcomes. When supportive elements are not present, even the naturally good conditions could turn into bad conditions.
It is crucial for parents to spend time with their children on consistent and daily basis. Small things like eating together, reading books could create bond and foster positive interaction.
It is also important for educators to provide healthy learning experience for students in the classrooms. Acknowledging students’ difficulties and working together to solve the problems in the neutral and healthy ways are always encouraged.
Mental health and health practitioners need to educate and spread awareness to community about the importance of creating safe and healthy environment for children by discussing about the long term benefits of creating and maintaining safe environment for children.
Law enforcement and government need to coordinate all segments and work together to promote healthy environment by ensuring that community members have enough food and proper housing and create safe communities.
Finally, the above scenarios require all of us as a community to work and collaborate with each other to create healthy-safe environment and maintain it in the long run. The maintaining process requires every member in the community to educate and remind each other what is right, just, and positive for our community.
Once, there was a girl who liked a boy, but did not have a gut to tell him how she felt. She was happy enough to stay near this boy and accompany him whenever possible.
Then, the girl had to move for another job. The girl was sad because she knew she would not meet the boy again. The girl couldn’t tell whether the boy liked him or not. There was another girl who also liked this boy. This even made this girl’s feeling small because she knew she would lose him.
The girl experienced challenging life situation in her new place. On top of that, she missed the boy very much days and nights. She felt angry, jealous and sad when she saw her friends could hang out with the boy while she couldn’t. This girl then decided to delete the boy’s phone number in hoping that she would not think of him that much.
It took 2 years for the girl to fully release and didn’t miss the boy. She decided to close her social accounts to help her to “flush” all unnecessary life baggages and move on to the better life.
This boy is dating another girl. The same girl who also had a crush on him a few years ago. They both moved to the same city last Summer.
Sometimes, falling in love with someone is much easier than letting go someone special. However, letting go is much healthier than keeping all dissapointments to ourselves. A much better and nicer person is waiting for you somewhere along your next journey.
When your lover is gone,don’t call him back.
It’s not good.
It’s not good.
Lover will pity you when you beg him to come back.
Instead, let him go.
True lover will do so much work and effort to stay together.
Through good and bad times, a true lover will stay beside you.
When your lover is gone,
Bid him farewell.
Au revoir, lover!
When I was young, Mama wanted me to be a piano teacher. She sent me to music class after school, in hoping that this would be my career post college.
Years later, I become a teacher, but not in the music field. Mama understood. We both know that I love what I do, though she still hopes that I would play piano again. Maybe one day, I will play piano again. Yeah!
**p.s. I recently joined a writing competition. The story is written in Bahasa, and the above paragraphs are the summary of the story.
What is music?
Music is a set of tunes playing together at the same time.
Music is comforting.
Music brings you peace and happiness.
Music has various rhythms, fast, slow, neutral, melancholic, just like life.
Music brings us life.
What’s your music?
Christmas is rather unique this year.
It’s the first year I celebrate holiday party with children and parents at our school.
It was a small celebration and turned out ok.
I hope to have more holiday parties with the children in the next coming years.
I hope to bring in more children and more activities to the party.
Now that holiday party is finished, I have no specific wish for Santa.
I truly believe that Santa Claus and God know exactly what I want and what I need.
My longing to travel and explore other countries is still there.
My longing to go back to faraway land is still there, too.
The only difference this year, I need to build this school and care for the children.
Wait, I do have specific wishes. I just don’t want to say my wishes out loud.
What do you wish for Christmas?