I’ve always doubt with the power of love in the context of dating and/or marriage relationship. I even thought 99% of perfect-happy marriage relationship is too good to be true, and if someone has that percentage, that’s awesome! If you are into marriage relationship, I strongly suggest you to fully commit in the relationship from the beginning (when you are still dating) until the end, not just half of the relationship. If you aren’t sure, just steer clear from it.
My doubt is derived from a series of observation. I’ve come to understand that once couple is officially married and later have children, their status is moved from married couple to marriage-family life. This new status is no longer about two responsible adults living under the same roof. This status requires them to actively maintain their relationships with multiple people (children, siblings, in-laws, grandparents, cousins, etc). The process in maintaining this complex relationship could be joyful for some couples, but it could be overwhelming or exhausting for other couples.
I suggest you to always have a positive thinking to maintain neutral- positive relationship within and outside your inner family. Remember, it’s start with you first! Then, you need to prioritize the well being of your inner family members above anything else, meaning you take a good care of your family, those who live in your house and have direct family relationship with you. Socializing with relatives in the form of dinner and/or group vacation on frequent or yearly basis is always good idea. The key of this socialization is to create stress-free environment, activities outside normal routine.
Sometimes, you could run into someone who still has a family relationship with you, but this person continuously bring negative and destructive effects on you and your family. In this situation, you could avoid this person and explain to other relatives why you do so. Keeping this person with you not only damage your emotional health, but also affect your abilities to serve those who still need your help.
So, are you ready for this kind of marriage-family life? Again, this is something that you and your fiancé need to have a small talk while you are in a relationship ,before the marriage and more in depth after saying “I do.” While I agree with most of you that marriage preparation is exciting, I cautiously warn you to act wise and think big as you enter the real marriage life (post wedding reception). Good or bad is in your hands. So, please handle with care!
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