A Must-Have Attitude to Survive in The Dynamic Society

I believe in the idea that hard work and persistency are followed by desired outcome. However, I admit that the waiting time from the moment we start the work until we actually see the desired result is varied. It depends on the type of the work that we do. For example, it took a while for Steve Job to invent, design, and finally launch iPhone successfully and reap its rewards. On another note, the medical research to find cures for medical illness such as HIV is still ongoing, but many patients have received preventive care and treatments to lessen the pain.

Why being persistent and hard working are crucial traits in a job? Because it tells others and ourselves that we love our work. It also reflects on the product that we create or service that we deliver. Picture a smart doctor but this doctor is rude. Will you come back to see this doctor again? Probably no. You probably choose another doctor who is not as famous as that doctor, but this doctor listens to you, provides assistance that you need the most, and treats you as an equal person.

Now, at some point in our lives, we come across people who expect immediate results without examining the core area and (perhaps) fail to look back on how far the project/goal has been accomplished. This case usually happens to people whose loved ones are sick and/or suffering from mental health disorders. It could also happened to any companies that expect quick return of investment, as soon as the production is started. If any of you happen to experience this situation, I strongly advice you to think positive and look on the brighter side. You could weep for 5 minutes, and that’s it, no more weeping. Get up and go back to work. I personally think it’s a human nature to be slightly impatient and perhaps greedy, looking for more and better. Thus, any unpleasant comments or words coming out from clients should not make your heart small. Instead, use those words to motivate you to perform better. We should not worry about “what if so and so….” ,as long as we have been doing our work correctly and on the top of that, we show genuine effort to deliver the best performance to our customers.

I understand putting all of this into practice is not easy. It comes with practice and experience. It also comes with understanding that no one is perfect, but willingness to learn and move forward is a must-have attitude that we should have whether we are students, professionals, or simply an adult.

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The Hidden Benefit of Physical Exercises

I lately found a sense of comfort in watering plants. I don’t do it everyday, but whenever I have free slot I usually water the plants. The activity helps me to step outside the work and use the moment to brainstorm or relax. Work is quite tough and doing something that is not related to work is giving me a soothing feeling.

This similar experience happened to me in the past during my grad school. I was a first year graduate student at Pitt, and I chose a practicum site that was far from campus. I didn’t foresee that the site would be that far until I got there on the first day. I basically walked up and down the hill, 3 days a week for 4 months in winter time. The first time going up was hard. It took me about 35 minutes to go up, but it got easier after that. Even though the weather was cold and snowy, I found a sense of comfort as I walked up and down the hill. I saw another hill on the other side, played with the snow and leaves as I walked, and all of these surprisingly were entertaining. This exercise became my “therapy” at that moment because the practicum was hard. Funny, but it was true.

So, next time you feel tired or simply need some refreshing, please try to exercise. You could ride a bike, walk the dog, or any other activities you could think of. Who knows all the clouds in the head could disappear and new ideas could pop up.

p.s. picture source: personal property

Tips To Keep Your Wedding Vows Last Forever

The best moment in the wedding ceremony is during vow exchange. This, in my opinion, is the most serious moment in which two love birds verbally express their promises and cannot take the words back. I sincerely hope that whatever they say to each other is truth and last forever because there are couples who quick to say “I do,” but also quick to say “let’s get divorce.”

I learned through my experience working with multiple families that marriage vow could become fragile and sometimes was even forgotten when they were experiencing difficult times. The slippery moment usually happened after a major family event that happened to them, and this major family event could be in the form of illnesses, miscarriages, child disabilities, etc. The strongest couple is the one who could survive during the most challenging time, come out successfully, and still appreciate whatever God has given to them.

So, how to keep the marriage vow lasts then?

*Learning to love, forgive, and keep promises everyday.

*Praying together.

*Learning to not condemn to each other.

*Asking for help from professionals such as marriage therapists, religious leaders, or family counselors.

*Expressing apology

*Saying NO to drugs, gambling and infidelity. These three are poisons and could hurt your family members.

*Keeping your temper down.

Our world will be so much better and peaceful if each of us continuously learn to love each others. Keep spreading the love! and congratulations to those who are married today and/or getting married soon!

P.S. picture is from personal file.

33 Things You Want and/or Wish to Achieve in Your Life.

What would be on your lists if I were to ask you to write 33 things you wish you were doing it, or you have accomplished?

It took me a few weeks to compile, but here’s my 33 things:

#1. Study abroad

It was a privilege to be able to study abroad. On another note, it took courage, support (moral and financial), and perseverance to make it successful. If you are given an opportunity to study abroad, I suggest you to go for it.

#2. Go outside the comfort zone.

No one likes uncertainty, and so do I. It triggers anxiety, but doing something new could also benefit you. I experienced this moment when I had to move back to my hometown. The process of leaving the comfort zone was hard, but I actually was proud of myself once I passed the “storm.”

#3. The act of proving.

The decision whether to prove something to someone or not is solely based on individual’s personalities. I chose to prove because of numerous personal reasons. I continuously show to my loved ones that the work that I do is worthy and the life value that I have been holding on is not completely wrong.

#4. Travel more

I’ve always believe that traveling opens our minds and expand our knowledge. I think whenever possible, we should travel more to see what’s going on outside our communities. This is definitely something that I want to do more in the coming years.

#5. Wisdom

Getting older doesn’t guarantee us to be wise. It has to do with one’s ability to acknowledge both strengths and weaknesses, and to take criticism without judging. Practice, practice, and practice.

#6. Letting go

Keep the good and supportive ones and throw the bad ones. The rule applies to all segments in our lives.

#7. Become a philanthropist.

Ever since I learned about the meaning of the word “philantropist,” I have been dreaming to become a philanthropist one day. I have not accomplish this goal yet. It may take xx years to achieve this particular goal. But, who knows I could be a philanthropist?

#8. Passion

This is something that I am proud of myself. It took me 4 years to find my true passion. The searching process was unique and meaningful.

I am a forefront believer that when the work that we do is aligned with our passion, we are likely to give our best performance in the job and to the people with whom we work.

#9. Listen to and respect your parents.

It’s so easy for us to forget that we cannot be the person we are now without our parents’ guidance. Similarly, we tend to dismiss our parents’ advices just because we think we have higher education than our parents are. Little do we know that our parents know the dynamic of life better than we do, so they actually have wiser advices than what we think they are.

#10. Understand and accept that nothing in this world is eternal.

Something happened to our family 3 years ago. That event has taught me very valuable lesson.

I would say that this is an ongoing progress, too. I am learning to accept that one day my loved ones including me have to depart from this world. I am learning to accept that our loved ones cannot physically accompany us forever. This is a tough topic, but I am trying.

#11. Tell me about your first love.

First love, perhaps, is something that I cannot describe very well. Love is a broad term and everyone has his/her own unique love stories. Mine is dated back some years ago when I was still in a college. What bothered me so much at that time (and still, by the way), is to decide which one is better, to be loved or to love? I had beautiful two years love and friendship experience. Knowing that someone loved you that much was priceless and unimaginable. We know that what we want do not mean we could end up having it. This concept applied to my first college love story.

#12. Friends come and go.

Moving several times cost me a lot in terms of friendship. There’s always lose and gain. Keep the positive thinking.

#13. Explore hobbies.

Writing and blogging were among a few things I were interested in, but I did not have time to make them happened. The blogging started because I missed someone so badly, and the way to cure that feeling was to write.

#14. Patience

Most people were quick to think that I must be a patient person due to my job. The truth is that my patience is derived from years of practice and training. But, no, I am still far from perfect. Therefore, I need to practice more.

#15. Cooking

You could call me an eater rather than a cook. I would consider myself a decent cook, but I am just not really interested in expanding my skills. I cooked a lot in the past to push down the expenses. Now, I am not cooking as often as I used to do in the past.

#16. Act of kindness

Being a responsible citizen is not sufficient. One must exercise the act of kindness to others even to your enemies (if you have one) without asking to get paid in return.

This part is an ongoing process. Like wisdom and patience, the act of kindness requires positive attitudes and unselfishness. Now that’s hard.

#17. Relax and breathe

Work and house chores are exhausted but still bearable. Work, house chores and family matter are emotionally exhausted and could be unbearable. Practicing to simply relax and go with the flow is tough, but possible. Life goes on.

#18. Accounting skills.

This skill is highly important. Now that I have a big responsibility to run a place, I realize that I need to learn more and seek advices to ensure I have the money to manage the place and support myself.

#19. Sleep more

Oh, well! I need those quality sleeping time.

#20. Stay young!

…and be responsible. Aging is unavoidable, but having a spirit like young people do, added with tons of responsibility is a must. This spirit will keep us to move forward and do daily things on our own without bothering people.

#21. Healthy lifestyle

Busy life should not stop us from practicing healthy lifestyle. Cutting the consumption of unhealthy food and beverages and practicing positive thinking together with moderate exercise should be incorporated in our daily routine.

In the past, I could drink approximately 4 cups of coffee (grande-size cup) in one day. I reduced my portion to 2 small cups since 2 years ago.

#22. more action less unnecessary talking.

Speak concisely is one of the few things I have been practicing for sometimes. I like the idea because it allows me and the other conversation partners to have productive meeting.

#23. read more books.

I used to read more books when I was in a college. Barnes and Noble is my fave bookstore. I read less fiction and non-fiction books as my working hours are getting longer. I bought lots of books, but those books are for my students.

#24. Personal Robot

I wish I could have a robot that could help me running the household. This means I don’t need to deal with the household tasks and when I get home from work, dinner is ready and the house is clean.

#25. More money

Back when I was in school, I look forward on entering the days when I could earn my own money and had a privilege to spend+open my own saving account. I remembered vividly how good it felt on me to be able to buy things without relying on my parents’ money.

However, as I am getting older, I have to ensure that I earn more than enough, so that at the end of the days, I still have money left to put in a saving account. Adult’s life is complicated.

#26. Pray more

I pray everyday, but I still think I don’t pray harder.

Saying thank you is counted as prayer, but I need to do more than saying thank you.

When life turbulence keeps hitting from all directions, prayers need to go harder.

#27. Doing greater things

Make positive impacts in community has been my indirect goals for the past four years. I would like to broaden this impact so that many families in the community could receive more helps.

#28. Meeting fantastic people.

My definition of fantastic people is anyone who has brought tremendous impacts locally and globally. Anyone who is humble, yet so charismatic and could bring inspiration to anyone who hears and talks to him/her.

#29. Build a family.

This is either yay or nay. You have to put lots of efforts added with extra patience, support and love to build and maintain a family. So??

#30. Laugh more

Laugh is a medicine to wrinkle and depression and sickness. Therefore, as much as we frown a lot, we need to laugh more.

#31. Dare to acknowledge mistake and apologize.

This is very crucial both in work and personal-related matters.

#32. Make use of talent to the fullest.

God gives us talents. We need to use and cultivate those talents to help others and make our world healthier.

#33. Hakuna matata.

Don’t worry be happy.

Take the day one at a time.

Always believe that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.

Why Having Clear Specific Goal is Mattered in Writing Articles

I don’t know what I look for” was the phrase that I often said when I went out for shopping, as well as when I was supposed to write articles. I felt overwhelmed with the options and information presented in front of me during the searching process. While I could choose to search for specific items later, I couldn’t postpone the latter task because a group of people wait for those information. How would I solve this? Re-evaluating the original topics was the answer. 

Through reevaluating the original topic, I learned that my original topic or you could call it, a hypothesis, was either too broad or too complicated. The process of gathering information was quick and smooth once I simplified the  and changed the focus. Knowing who the audience is also important because I wanted to ensure that my information would be easily grasped and understood. I started to write the summary of my finding after I had all the information that I needed. This would be my draft, and I did not expect it to be perfect right away. I usually read it over and made a few editing before I submitted it. Whenever possible, I would ask someone else to review my writing. This could be friends or co-workers. If you have an editor to work with you, the editor would provide feedback. 

Having a clear-specific goal definitely ease the data collection process which then make the writing process a lot easier. By sharing these tips, I hope each of you would find writing activity is neither scary nor overwhelming. The valuable reward of your effort is knowing that the article that you wrote benefits people. 

Love is Confident

Certain songs remind you of certain people and events. This happens to be true in my case. I listened to Piano Guys on Spotify earlier and as I was listening to their songs, my memories traveled back to my school years. The songs reminds me of the time when life was around job searching and idealizing the characteristics of good guy according to my standard. 

I met a fellow classmate during my school years who patiently accompanied and waited for me for 2 years. I enjoyed his company and we got along really well, but I was not able to say “yes” to him. I was in tears when he forbid good bye, but I told myself it was meant to be gone. I’ve always convince myself when the time is right, I would be able to say “yes” to the guy who proposes and/or initiates a further relationship with me. 

Years after that teary moment, I’ve missed some other critical love moments in which a family member was partially blaming me for not making a move. Work has been my savior during those periods of time. If I am perhaps unlucky in this love segment, I shouldn’t fail in my career. I could lose one, but not both. Thus, this has become my new life motto. 

Listening to Piano Guy’s songs made me to think and look back on what I have dreamed and wished in the past. The dream has always been love and career go hand-in-hand. I know for sure what I want to achieve in my work, and deep down, I know I choose the right profession. Similarly, I want the same feeling of confidence when it comes to love. I do not know when I will meet the right guy, but if the time is right and it is meant to be, I will meet that person, and so I will be able to say “yes” to him. 

Love is patient, pure, and confident. When the time is right, it will be beautiful.